CPT Cancer

A journal about the intersection of military life, cancer, and being a single dad.

Tag: nausea

  • The Final Week of Treatment

    Author’s Note: “Recovery Week 1” will explain why this entry took so long. Life comes at you fast.

    The last entry was short and to the point because I was writing it at  Chemo 3 during the hydration portion, but before the cisplatin portion. Doing any kind of task with my hands while on cisplatin is basically a non-starter a majority of the time as I wear special mittens with ice packs pushed into them to combat the onset of neuropathy during the infusion for as long as I can tolerate. Once I can’t tolerate it anymore, I put them back in the cooler to re-cool and am free to use my hands again until I put the mittens back on. This process also occurs on my feet and on my head, with special booties and cap respectively, but I don’t really need to do anything with those while I’m chair-bound for the infusion.

    I started last week off with the attitude of, “I just need to survive the worst of the chemo and then I’m on the path to recovery.” But I didn’t fully expect just how much of a hammer the last round of chemo would hit me with. The onset of nausea, general “yucky” feeling and fatigue set in as expected but the nausea was so bad this time that feeding, medication, and hydration through my feeding tube was basically a non-starter. Mentally, I didn’t even want to attempt these things and it began to wear me down emotionally.

    Radiation at this point was a blur. I slept most of the way to and from, and I dozed off on the table when I was getting zapped. My final day was Friday evening and I’d extended a broad invite to my circles in case people wanted to support me when I “rang the bell” after treatment. I was very surprised at the eclectic group of people that showed up to cheer me on- there was someone there from nearly every slice of my life that in many ways has no overlap with the others. Staff members from the proton center technician team that treated me daily were also on hand to observe, which I found touching.

    I was tired, emotionally spent, and physically at my limit but still managed to scrape together enough energy to conjure up a weak speech about the importance of taking care of yourself and each other. Technically you are only supposed to ring the bell three times but I rang that thing like I was a conductor on a train platform– I was glad to finally put this milestone behind me.

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    They Showed Up

    I have to take some time to talk about the people that “showed up” to the bell-ringing at the proton center.  Mind you a majority of this crowd lives even further south than me so they drove over an hour after work on a friday evening to watch this simple act. I will continue to use some made up names, and some real ones, but what matters is acknowledging that these people took time out of their busy friday evening to be part of this day.

    Thomas, who I mentioned before, showed up with his son and daughter. This didn’t surprise me, but I have to continue to acknowledge how important he’s been in my life during this crisis as well as the ones that came before it over the last few years. There’s never not been a time where I can count on him to be someone I can count on for anything at any time. He’s my brother in every way but blood at this point, an amazing father, and someone to emulate if you’re looking to build a positive, stable life. There is nothing I wouldn’t do for him, and I know there’s nothing he wouldn’t do for me. We should all be so fortunate to have someone in our lives like this.

    I had several Army colleagues show up, which was touching. They haven’t seen me in almost three months but there’s never been a moment where I felt shut out or abandoned by my Army family both near and far.

    Someone from my beer league hockey team showed up, sporting our jersey, which was something I really didn’t expect. We aren’t super close, but her simple act of showing up and representing what was a huge slice of my pre-cancer life was truly touching and made me unexpectedly emotional.

    My mom, of course, was there, but my aunt also came down to see me despite her own health difficulties as she battles her own variety of melanoma. She’s been an important fountain of information for me as a multiple time cancer survivor.

    The proton therapy team all stood off behind the desk and watched and I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention how great they’ve been during this portion of my treatment. Never once did they come off as cold, uncaring, or just going through the motions. Every time I went back for treatment I felt that my comfort and care were their number one priority and that they were committed to giving me the best treatment possible. These are radiation technicians, nurse assistants, registered nurses, resident doctors, and my primary radiation oncologist Dr. Panner.

    As much as I want to end this entry on a good note, I unfortunately cannot as this is not a story that ends with everyone standing up clapping at the end and I am miraculously cured after my last treatment. The reality is, unfortunately, a lot gritter than that.

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    Slow Burn

    Radiation, while having its own set of awful side effects, isn’t something you feel as acutely afterward as you do chemo. Chemo isn’t something you feel immediately either, but you do feel much quicker than the accumulation of radiation. Within a day of each round of chemo I felt terrible, as to where I didn’t even begin to feel the first effects of radiation until nearly three weeks into treatment.

    The problem with layering the most difficult treatment you can give someone with an already difficult cancer (my medical oncologist said his greatest fear is a cancer of the head/neck or prostate due to the side effects of the treatment and he’s seen some shit) is that you aren’t quite sure where one side effect ends and another begins in terms of attribution or duration. Nausea, for instance, is one that many attribute to chemo but in my case also lends itself to radiation in my case due to my treatment area. Radiation has made my saliva thicker as it degrades my saliva glands, which gives my already sensitive gag reflex even more trouble to the point where any time of foreign object or fluid in my mouth triggers gagging or vomiting. Vomiting is something I try to aggressively avoid, because when your throat constantly feels sunburned the last thing you want is acidic bile running up past it and out of your mouth. Vomiting also aggressively engages your ab muscles, and as discussed in my entry about receiving my feeding tube, that hurts much more than it needs to because of the gunshot-sized hole in my ab wall.

    There came a point during the week where my only hydration was coming via my daily hydration infusion appointments at the Army hospital. This is exactly what it sounds like: I go in, sit for an hour and get an IV bag shot into me through my chest port, and go on about my day. I was lucky to have a couple visitors during this when my more aggressive anti-nausea meds were still effective post-chemo and before I really started to deteriorate over the weekend. My old platoon sergeant from when I was a young junior enlisted soldier retired to this area and came to see me during one infusion, and later some of the Army lawyers I work with stopped by briefly to say hi. Speaking is still an incredibly laborious process for me so I still sounded like the black kid from Malcolm in the Middle trying to hold a conversation, but I tried.

    Things really took a turn for the worst over the weekend. I was both unable and unwilling to take any feedings or medications out of fear of vomiting due to my intense nausea. I figured this was just a really rough round of chemo effects and I’d tough it out until next week.

    Things did not get better.

    They got much, much worse.

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    The views and opinions presented herein are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of the Department of Defense or the U.S. Army.

  • Treatment Part 1: Week One

    (Author’s Note: I am typing this under the influence of chemotherapy, please be gentle on spelling/grammar/formatting errors)

    Hard Conversations

    I finally had the conversation with my daughter. I had no idea what to expect, but after speaking with a social worker and her teacher beforehand I went in and felt like I was prepared for most outcomes.

    She’s been through a lot in the last couple years. Her parents getting divorced, moving five hours away, and the ups and downs of the men her mother brings into her life (she has never met any of the women I’ve dated, let alone even had the idea I was dating anyone, for perspective). I knew this could be another tough pill for her to swallow.

    I kept looking for opportunities for us to tell her together, but window after window kept closing and I knew I was finally out of time- I had to tell her myself.  My mother had returned from Florida and was able to occupy my son so I could have the difficult conversation relatively uninterrupted. 

    She took it very well, partially because I don’t think she understands the gravity of “cancer” but she understood that it is serious and that the medicine they have to give me will make me sick, too sick to visit sometimes, and that her getting sick would also mean she couldn’t see me because I could get really sick from her. “Sick” and “medicine” were baseline terms that I used to explain just about the entire situation. There were a few misty eye moments but nothing she didn’t choke back on her own. Overall, it was a successful conversation about a difficult subject. Thank goodness for small wins.

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    Day Zero

    Monday was spent gathering last minute supplies, doing my pre-chemo lab draw, and knocking out other small tasks that needed to happen prior to my treatment.

    The military hospital is one of many teaching hospitals in the Army’s medical arsenal, and my phlebotomist was an AIT (military trade school) student being overseen by a Sergeant. I have a strong sympathetic response and I had a feeling I was going to be out of this young soldier’s depth. I was correct. 

    I have, by all accounts, great veins. I’ve never had someone “miss” the way this young soldier did. After one failed stick I was out of patience, because mentally this was not the day for this adventure for me, and I looked at the Sergeant and said, “OK, she’s done, you’re up.” and got my draw done promptly.  Normally I’m a good to decent patient for students, but today was not that day. I wasn’t spending my last day of freedom getting my arms mangled by Private Pincushion.

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    Day One: Chemo 1 & Proton 1

    I woke up, loaded my cooler (I brought cooling mittens, booties, and a beanie with gel packs in them because I’d been told it’s one way to fight neuropathy and hair loss), and packed up all my things. We drove to the Army hospital and parked in our designated spot, reserved for infusion patients, and began the long walk toward the end of the first part of my life. I knew, and know, this is one of the watershed moments that I will use to demarcate my life in the future.

    After spending some time in the waiting area, I was brought back, the chemo port in my chest was accessed with a needle, and I was taken to my chair. They are oversized power recliners with hospital trays nearby. They gave me a cup full of pills and began running a liter of potassium chloride into my body through my port- apparently this chemo agent is hard on the electrolyte count. As soon as I exhausted that bag they got me started on my 1000ml (100mg) of Cisplatin chemotherapy the clock was on. I began diligently putting on, taking off, and reapplying my cold packs in between windows of time watching 1917 on my iPad.

    I received the highest dose of Cisplatin they can give a person due to my age and fitness level, and I sat there and watched four other patients come and go in the time it took me to get my dose, ostensibly older and only getting weekly doses versus my three-week dose.

    “Cisplatin is a chemical compound with formula cis-[Pt(NH3)2Cl2]. It is a coordination complex of platinum that is used as a chemotherapy medication used to treat a number of cancers.[3] These include testicular cancer, ovarian cancer, cervical cancer, bladder cancer, head and neck cancer, esophageal cancer, lung cancer, mesothelioma, brain tumors and neuroblastoma. It is given by injection into a vein.

    Common side effects include bone marrow suppression, hearing problems including severe hearing loss, kidney damage, and vomiting. Other serious side effects include numbness, trouble walking, allergic reactions, electrolyte problems, and heart disease. Use during pregnancy can cause harm to the developing fetus. Cisplatin is in the platinum-based antineoplastic family of medications. It works in part by binding to DNA and inhibiting its replication.

    Cisplatin was first reported in 1845 and licensed for medical use in 1978 and 1979. It is on the World Health Organization’s List of Essential Medicines“     -Wikipedia

    One thing they tell you to cut out when you start chemo is coffee, because caffeine dehydrates you, and chemo doesn’t need any assistance in dehydrating you. What they fail to mention however, is that you should wean yourself off of it and not just stop drinking fucking coffee on day one. I started to develop a significant caffeine withdrawal headache before half my dose was complete, which turned an otherwise benign experience so far into an uncomfortable one.

    Fortunately, the only overarching discomfort I had was the headache and the constant need to pee from three liters of collective fluid being put into my veins over the last five hours (the treatment is bookended by another liter of potassium chloride).

    Going home was relatively uneventful, as was the next couple hours. The proton therapy center had scheduled us in concert with the Army hospital to ensure we could be seen in the evening with enough cushion to arrive after chemo.

    We arrived at the proton center and I was told the first day is typically one of the longer ones, as they have to take an x-ray to make sure my mask is still aligned correctly, and to get the permission to go-ahead with treatment that x-ray image would need to be approved by a doctor. Fortunately I was feeling ok still and withstood the additional delays well enough.

    On the drive home I crashed right out in the passenger seat. Without fail, each day I pass out for a period of time on the drive back. Getting radiation is like spending a whole day out in the sun- it just sucks the energy right out of your body.

    The next three days were generally uninterrupted by the underarching feelings of nausea and discomfort. Usually the morning, right when waking up, is the best I feel all day. The longer I lie awake in bed, the worse I begin to feel. My body only tolerates lying down for sleeping, otherwise I need to be seated or in a reclined position in order to not feel like total shit most of the time.

    The saddest news I got this week came on, today, Friday, when my ex texted me to tell me our daughter was having flu-like symptoms. Seeing my kids was the one event I was looking forward to this entire week, and I knew that was about to be taken away from me for my own well-being. Talk about a gut punch.

    In fact, I think I’ll wrap it up there for now, one shouldn’t be emotional and blog.

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    The views and opinions presented herein are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of the Department of Defense or the U.S. Army.