Author’s Note: “Recovery Week 1” will explain why this entry took so long. Life comes at you fast.
The last entry was short and to the point because I was writing it at Chemo 3 during the hydration portion, but before the cisplatin portion. Doing any kind of task with my hands while on cisplatin is basically a non-starter a majority of the time as I wear special mittens with ice packs pushed into them to combat the onset of neuropathy during the infusion for as long as I can tolerate. Once I can’t tolerate it anymore, I put them back in the cooler to re-cool and am free to use my hands again until I put the mittens back on. This process also occurs on my feet and on my head, with special booties and cap respectively, but I don’t really need to do anything with those while I’m chair-bound for the infusion.
I started last week off with the attitude of, “I just need to survive the worst of the chemo and then I’m on the path to recovery.” But I didn’t fully expect just how much of a hammer the last round of chemo would hit me with. The onset of nausea, general “yucky” feeling and fatigue set in as expected but the nausea was so bad this time that feeding, medication, and hydration through my feeding tube was basically a non-starter. Mentally, I didn’t even want to attempt these things and it began to wear me down emotionally.
Radiation at this point was a blur. I slept most of the way to and from, and I dozed off on the table when I was getting zapped. My final day was Friday evening and I’d extended a broad invite to my circles in case people wanted to support me when I “rang the bell” after treatment. I was very surprised at the eclectic group of people that showed up to cheer me on- there was someone there from nearly every slice of my life that in many ways has no overlap with the others. Staff members from the proton center technician team that treated me daily were also on hand to observe, which I found touching.
I was tired, emotionally spent, and physically at my limit but still managed to scrape together enough energy to conjure up a weak speech about the importance of taking care of yourself and each other. Technically you are only supposed to ring the bell three times but I rang that thing like I was a conductor on a train platform– I was glad to finally put this milestone behind me.
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They Showed Up
I have to take some time to talk about the people that “showed up” to the bell-ringing at the proton center. Mind you a majority of this crowd lives even further south than me so they drove over an hour after work on a friday evening to watch this simple act. I will continue to use some made up names, and some real ones, but what matters is acknowledging that these people took time out of their busy friday evening to be part of this day.
Thomas, who I mentioned before, showed up with his son and daughter. This didn’t surprise me, but I have to continue to acknowledge how important he’s been in my life during this crisis as well as the ones that came before it over the last few years. There’s never not been a time where I can count on him to be someone I can count on for anything at any time. He’s my brother in every way but blood at this point, an amazing father, and someone to emulate if you’re looking to build a positive, stable life. There is nothing I wouldn’t do for him, and I know there’s nothing he wouldn’t do for me. We should all be so fortunate to have someone in our lives like this.
I had several Army colleagues show up, which was touching. They haven’t seen me in almost three months but there’s never been a moment where I felt shut out or abandoned by my Army family both near and far.
Someone from my beer league hockey team showed up, sporting our jersey, which was something I really didn’t expect. We aren’t super close, but her simple act of showing up and representing what was a huge slice of my pre-cancer life was truly touching and made me unexpectedly emotional.
My mom, of course, was there, but my aunt also came down to see me despite her own health difficulties as she battles her own variety of melanoma. She’s been an important fountain of information for me as a multiple time cancer survivor.
The proton therapy team all stood off behind the desk and watched and I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention how great they’ve been during this portion of my treatment. Never once did they come off as cold, uncaring, or just going through the motions. Every time I went back for treatment I felt that my comfort and care were their number one priority and that they were committed to giving me the best treatment possible. These are radiation technicians, nurse assistants, registered nurses, resident doctors, and my primary radiation oncologist Dr. Panner.
As much as I want to end this entry on a good note, I unfortunately cannot as this is not a story that ends with everyone standing up clapping at the end and I am miraculously cured after my last treatment. The reality is, unfortunately, a lot gritter than that.
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Slow Burn
Radiation, while having its own set of awful side effects, isn’t something you feel as acutely afterward as you do chemo. Chemo isn’t something you feel immediately either, but you do feel much quicker than the accumulation of radiation. Within a day of each round of chemo I felt terrible, as to where I didn’t even begin to feel the first effects of radiation until nearly three weeks into treatment.
The problem with layering the most difficult treatment you can give someone with an already difficult cancer (my medical oncologist said his greatest fear is a cancer of the head/neck or prostate due to the side effects of the treatment and he’s seen some shit) is that you aren’t quite sure where one side effect ends and another begins in terms of attribution or duration. Nausea, for instance, is one that many attribute to chemo but in my case also lends itself to radiation in my case due to my treatment area. Radiation has made my saliva thicker as it degrades my saliva glands, which gives my already sensitive gag reflex even more trouble to the point where any time of foreign object or fluid in my mouth triggers gagging or vomiting. Vomiting is something I try to aggressively avoid, because when your throat constantly feels sunburned the last thing you want is acidic bile running up past it and out of your mouth. Vomiting also aggressively engages your ab muscles, and as discussed in my entry about receiving my feeding tube, that hurts much more than it needs to because of the gunshot-sized hole in my ab wall.
There came a point during the week where my only hydration was coming via my daily hydration infusion appointments at the Army hospital. This is exactly what it sounds like: I go in, sit for an hour and get an IV bag shot into me through my chest port, and go on about my day. I was lucky to have a couple visitors during this when my more aggressive anti-nausea meds were still effective post-chemo and before I really started to deteriorate over the weekend. My old platoon sergeant from when I was a young junior enlisted soldier retired to this area and came to see me during one infusion, and later some of the Army lawyers I work with stopped by briefly to say hi. Speaking is still an incredibly laborious process for me so I still sounded like the black kid from Malcolm in the Middle trying to hold a conversation, but I tried.
Things really took a turn for the worst over the weekend. I was both unable and unwilling to take any feedings or medications out of fear of vomiting due to my intense nausea. I figured this was just a really rough round of chemo effects and I’d tough it out until next week.
Things did not get better.
They got much, much worse.
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